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I came to show you how.
Chapter 3 leads me to shaky ground. The one thing I fear the most and crave the most all at the same time. RELATIONSHIPS! What a crazy idea…or so I used to think!
I have very clear memories of my childhood and being “afraid” of people. I think most of my family would say I was “shy”. I viewed the world from the back of my mom’s pant leg for a lot of years. It was my haven from all those people and situations that I didn’t feel comfortable with. It was something I would tell you I overcome as a teenager! I was free from shyness! Actually, people who meet me as an adult would never use the word shy to describe me. Strong willed, with definite opinions, who’s not afraid to state the obvious-that might be some things said about me now. Yet my heart and the most personal part of my soul remained “fearful” well into my adult life. People can wound you, people will wound you. That played on a loop in the back of my head for a long time. That fear makes for a crummy friend. I was able to start building relationships but when that fear would start to build then I would bail! I couldn’t afford another broken heart.
That was until I met Jesus! It wasn’t an immediate change. It’s actually been a 10 year struggle as I’ve taken back control of my life over and over again. The world according to me and my earthly desires. It wasn’t until I realized that the hole I had in my heart could only be filled with God and his love for me. That’s when I stopped looking to everything else in my life to fulfill me. That’s when God cut my heart in a way that would forever change me. That’s when God opened my eyes to a whole world of lost and dying people. That’s when “me, me, me” didn’t seem quite as important. I occasionally look at the Melissa from before as a reminder but I don’t let myself dwell in those times for very long because that is no longer the Melissa that writes these words.
I’ve realized over the last few years as I’ve built a relationship with Jesus (or maybe better-He continues to build one with me!) that the fear starts to disappear. I feel it being replaced with a peace I don’t really understand and won’t pretend to understand! I’ve learned a couple of things….like~ you are going to be hurt by people AND this whole life-it’s not all about me anymore. I suddenly find myself looking first to my relationship with God in everything I do and I have learned that when I do that no matter what hurt comes my way~I feel it differently than I used to. I don’t ever carry it alone. Does that make any sense? I hope so!
As I read this chapter I realized that if I never truly open my heart to all that God has for me then I will never truly live in the full blessings He has planned for me. (And I’m not referring to the shiny things of this world. Refer back to Chapter 1!)
Chapter 3 reminds me that we are called to relationships. That is ultimately what Jesus has shown me with His life and also called me to do with my life….build relationships. What a glorious calling~to live in authentic community with others. Enduring all things and sharing what little we may have. I realize that sharing of life may be in face to face moments or in moments here on a blog, Facebook, or Twitter.
I’m thankful this moment that Jesus did “come to show me how”.
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